
Goddess Lycia, do you identify as straight, gay, or bisexual?
Straight.
My interest in chastity is: personal/professional
Both
Do you practice orgasm control or orgasm denial?
Both
What do you enjoy the most about controlling your partner’s release?
I enjoy the control. Knowing that My feminine sexual power is all it takes to turn his penis into a puppet that responds to My every word and movement. I enjoy how incredibly aroused he becomes, holding his cum in for so long, and how submissive he becomes when he is consistenly horny. It is especially enjoyable when a sub begs Me to allow him to touch himself, even if he knows that “release” isn’t in the program for the day
Do you practise orgasm control/denial with all your submissive partners? If not, what makes you decide when to take control of someone’s orgasms?
Yes, I practise orgasm control and denial with all of My subs, to a degree. Some subs aren’t really into denial, but they all like to be controlled. And I enjoy orgasm control/denial too much to not make it part of every D/s relationship.
Please describe your favorite technique for teasing your chaste partner?
Most of My slaves are distance slaves, so a lot of the teasing comes from My fetish photos, fetish videos, and hypnosis mp3s. I also like to remind My cum-denied subbies how frequent and enjoyable My own orgasms are. I tell them that I have been “stealing” their orgasms, so that I can have more, and remind them how many lost orgasms opportunities thay’ve had since they’ve met Me. I get to know their individual fetishes and weaknesses, and use them against My boys to intensify their erotic suffering. I also have a masturbation instruction video, which teaches My boys how to do theur daily devorional masturbations.
Have you ruined your partner’s orgasm before, and if so, how did he/she react? How did you react?
Haha, yes. I had one of My subbies touch himself to the brink of cumming, and then remove his hand right at the first spurt. he was disappointed at the lack of orgasmic feeling which is supposed to accompany ejaculation, but happy that I was so entertained by the whole thing. Later on, it turned him on to think about My control, and the humiliation that the ruined orgasm created.
How do you decide when to allow your partner to orgasm?
It depends on the particular sub and what I feel he needs in order to be the best slave he can be, while also not exceeding his limits. Some boys just aren’t happy if they are made to hold off for more than a month, for example. Don’t get Me wrong; I like them to suffer. But I want the suffering to be enjoyable. Other slaves are happier being kept in denial for very long periods of time. I get to know them, and decide from there.
Do you enjoy hearing your partner beg or plead for relief? Why or why not?
Omg, yes. Again, it goes back to the control.
What are your feelings about the use of devices for enforcing chastity on your partner?
I use hypnosis to contol the minds of My subs, and I think that hypnosis is more powerful than a device. But I also think chastity devices are fun, mostly because the penis looks so silly all caged up like that. I like devices that have numbered locks, so that I can check to make sure there hasn’t been any misbehaving.
Do you have a favorite chastity device? If so, why is it your favorite?
Hypnotism! I enjoy delving into the subconscious mind and rewiring My subbies to think correctly (i.e. how I want them to). Hypnosis is the most intimate way to enforce chastity, in My opinion.
What reactions do you look for from a partner who you have in chastity? What reactions do you enjoy the most? What reactions do you enjoy the least?
I enjoy things such as: moaning, whimpering, begging, crawling, and the willingless of a slave to do whatever I see fit in order to attain possible release. I don’t enjoy whiny complains.
What are your feelings about allowing your partner a safeword when it comes to orgasm denial?
I like the idea behind safewords, especially with BDSM activities which involve ongoing physical pain, and where the sub would need to get a point across extremely quicky in order to insure his safety. With chastity, it seems to Me that feelings and limits can be communicated without the use of a safeword. We can just talk about it.
How do you know when your partner has reached the limit of his or ability to cope without orgasm?
Communication. If you know your subbie (and all Dommes should get to know them very well), then you can just tell when he is very sincere about truly needing release. It’s in his choice of words, the tone of his voice, his physical demeaner, and his overall mood.
Have you found tease & denial to be most effective when it is primarily physical or mental?
I think it is always both physical and mental, whether you’re with a real time slave, a distance slave, using physical devices or not, and touching or not.
How do you help your partner cope with the frustration of orgasm denial?
I’m sure to always let My subbies know how much it pleases Me to keep them in such a state. Their main purpose is to please Me, although they get immense pleasure in doing so. So,if they know that I am happy keeping them in cum-denied anguish, then they are more likely to enjoy the frustration that comes with having orgasms which are few and far between.
Which teasing techniques do you find most effectively increases your partner’s arousal level?
I have one of My cum-denied subbies taking supplements such as Horny Goat weed, Steel Libido, and Doctor’s Libido Lift, which are all-natural. I also make them use essential oils which cause intensified arousal in males, such as ylang ylang, rose, vanilla, patchouli, vetiver, and cinnamon.
How to you prevent a partner you are keeping chaste from becoming too needy?
I tell them they need to chill out
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us, Goddess Lycia!
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Goddess Lycia is a Hypnodomme, Humiliatrx, and Fetish Queen who also specializes in tease and denial, chastity training, sissification, and financial domination. She has a few websites where you can learn more:
http://www.cultoflycia.com
http://www.lyciascontrol.com
http://www.goddesslyciasworld.com
and Her personal blog is at http://mistress-lycia.livejournal.com